Touchcards is designed to help you explore intimacy beyond words. And yet, some words do help. Asking the right questions while you play can make the whole experience feel more complete and enjoyable. Our booklet contains guiding questions to ask while you play, or to reflect after; here are five more!
1. What do you most like about this touch? Might you want to feel this touch again?
Invite your partner to name what feels good! Is it the pressure, the playfulness, the presence and quality of being held? This will help you celebrate what’s already working, and will boost your touch-confidence so you can explore more of what you know you are good at.
2. What small change might help you enjoy this touch more?
Touch isn’t one-size-fits-all. Humans can't read each other's mind reliably and completely. And we do experience the same touch differently. Encourage feedback, without blame or pressure. Maybe they’d like the touch to be a bit slower, softer, deeper, or elsewhere. Learning how to tweak pressure, pace, or placement makes touch more attuned—and more joyful for both of you.
3. What in you was touched by this touch?
Sometimes something that felt tender, soft, or lost can relax into touch and come alive again. Maybe the person you are playing with doesn’t have words for this yet. You can still invite them to notice how this touch met parts of them that were yearning to be met.
4. What surprised you about this touch?
Touchcards might help you discover a touch you didn’t know you would like, or find new appreciation for the different flavours of touch. Maybe a touch that sounded silly felt sensual. Maybe what was once neutral now feels intimate.
5. Do you feel any tension receiving this touch? What would it say if it could speak?
Sometimes, we feel tense not because something’s wrong, but because our bodies remember things we haven’t yet said aloud. Naming the tension can feel relieving and connecting.
Why These Questions Matter
Touchcards is about reconnecting with your body and with each other through playful intimacy. The safest and most exciting play often happens when we feel seen, heard, and understood.
Got your own favorite question to ask while playing? We’d love to hear it! E-mail us at hello@playtouch.cards or share your thoughts on Instagram tagging @playtouch.cards
